Why Is It So Laborious For Me To Relinquish Management?

Right here’s one thing you’ve in all probability guessed about me should you’ve been studying my weblog for any period of time. I’m a management freak. 😀 I’m not a group participant. It’s not straightforward for me to belief individuals to do issues for me. I’ve been this fashion all my life. My mother tells me that one of many first full sentences I ever realized to say as a really small little one was, “Me do it me-self!” So I’ve at all times been fiercely impartial.

As I’ve labored on this home during the last almost-ten years, there have been issues that I’ve clearly needed to rent out as a result of there was no manner I might do them myself. I employed out the structural work after we transformed the storage into my studio. I imply, there’s no manner that I might have turned this…

…into this all on my own.

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However I’m certain that these guys would inform you that I used to be at all times round, at all times hovering, at all times ensuring that issues have been going in accordance with plan. And issues definitely didn’t go off with out a hitch. There have been some fairly vital frustrations with that contractor — miscommunications that would have simply been averted and by no means ought to have occurred — that simply added to my willpower to by no means rent out work until I completely must as a result of I can’t belief individuals to do issues appropriately. (I shared extra particulars about that right here.)

After which there was the carport. No manner might I’ve ever constructed that myself. It required pouring concrete, including big and really heavy structural beams, and so on. That was a job greatest dealt with by a number of males. (I really want to get present photos of the carport!)

And I employed out all the foundational work (subfloor, drywall, electrical, rough-in plumbing, framing) within the visitor bed room, residence gymnasium, hallway, and grasp toilet.

I additionally employed out the set up of the brand new HardiPlank siding, portray the outside of the home, pouring the brand new entrance sidewalk, and I’m certain there are a couple of smaller issues I’m forgetting.

So if it’s one thing that I do know I’m simply not bodily able to doing, or one thing that requires a number of individuals, or one thing that I’ve vowed by no means to do once more in my life (like putting in, taping, and mudding drywall), I’ll rent it out. I’ll accomplish that begrudgingly, after which I’ll hover and ask tons of questions because the work is being performed, however I’ll rent it out.

However I’ve at all times had such a tough time permitting myself to rent out work that I do know I can do myself. And it’s probably not a matter of not eager to spend the cash. It’s only a matter of me being fiercely impartial and never trusting different individuals to do the work as much as my requirements. I’ve by no means let anybody do any of the ending work on the inside of our home, as a result of I don’t belief anybody to try this.

The issue is that my fierce independence and management freak tendencies aren’t simply directed in direction of my DIY tasks and work on the home. However I additionally discover it very tough to relinquish management of issues that different individuals can in all probability do a lot better than I can, like cleansing my home. And as y’all know, that received me into fairly a bind final week.

Whereas I used to be sick in mattress all week, watching helplessly as my home turned an increasing number of of a whole catastrophe space with every passing day, it by no means even as soon as occurred to me to rent somebody to assist me. That thought by no means even crossed my thoughts. That’s simply not how my mind is wired.

There was really a time again in 2016 and 2017 after I did rent somebody to wash our home, however that type of fizzled, and I by no means thought to rent anybody else. For a minimum of six months now, Matt has been urging me to rent somebody to come back a minimum of as soon as each two weeks, if not each week, to wash the home in order that I can deal with different issues, however I’ve simply been dragging my toes on that. It’s simply so arduous for me to relinquish management over issues that I do know I can do myself. Whyyyyyyy am I like that?!?!

Proper now, there are three issues that we rent out frequently. The primary is the garden mowing, and I’ve by no means thought twice about handing that over to another person. We have now an acre of land, and I’ve completely no need to mow it myself. We additionally rent out our pest management and HVAC upkeep, each of which occur on a quarterly foundation. These are the one issues we rent out proper now.

I go searching my home, and I see so many little tasks that I might and may rent out. The fake stone on the porch skirt. Why am I decided to try this myself? A handyman might get that performed in a day. Re-installing the shutter that fell throughout excessive winds throughout a thunderstorm. It’s been sitting there for a couple of yr whereas I inform myself that I’ll get to it as quickly as I can. Why am I so decided to try this myself? I might offer you an entire lengthy listing of tasks like that that I might simply rent out, and but, I’ve such a tough time handing these over. Whyyyy???

Anyway, all of that to say…

Hello. My identify is Kristi, and I’m a management freak.

However I actually do wish to get higher and study to belief different individuals to do issues for me. I’m going to pressure myself by making some telephone calls right this moment.

What house-related issues do you have got outdoors assist with? Do you have got a handyman on velocity dial? Do you rent out your garden upkeep? Do you have got somebody clear your property? I’m simply curious. Every other management freaks like myself on the market?